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Opening Arguments

Happy is as happy does

You know, if you go through life thinking mostly in terms of victims and victimizers, you probably see yourself as victim rather than victimizer, so you're likely to be unhappy most of the time. That's my take on the guest column we published by Judy Harris, an adjunct faculty member in women's studies at IPFW. She quotes approvingly the work of another academic, Rose Brooks of the University of Virginia School of Law:

Based on social psychology research, happy people tend to rely on “heuristic shortcuts” in their task-performance and decision-making processes. In other words, they make simplistic assumptions and “rely more on ethnic and social stereotypes and political ideology in lieu of analysis,” as compared to unhappy people who recognize the complexity of circumstances and think them through. The naive ways of looking at the world can act as insulation from contemporary humanity and its many realities. There is a desire to hold on to a romanticized past in which life appeared less complicated and easier to control. The recognition of the intricacy and interrelatedness of issues and problems and the application of critical thinking, as opposed to effortless-cliché approaches to life, do have a tendency to somewhat reduce the happy mentality.

I'f I'm reading that right, it's the old "if you're happy, you must be stupid" argument. The smarter you get, the unhappier you are, because you realize this crazy old world is a lot more complicated than the goofy simpletons realize. Unless, of course, you are one of those evil conservative, Republican religious types, because then you out there every day trying to figure out how to screw everybody else. You are naturally the happiest people of all, because you are blind to the "racial and gender inequities that occurred and still persist."

I could go on and on about the politics of all this, but that's well-trod ground. And besides, I think Harris and Brooks are just plain wrong on a fundamental level:

We need unhappy people in our world and our town. Unhappiness and discontent inspire movements for change. Living in a comfort zone, the environment of what we deem to be happiness, does little to help entertain or initiate solutions for inclusiveness of all.

I don't think unhappy people contribute to anything. Unhappy people just sit around and stew in their own misery, paralyzed by their feelings of inadequacy. Progress and innovation, both evolution and revolution, come from people who are both dissatisfied with the way things are and driven to change them. That combination results in reslessness, which unleashes creativity. Unhappiness and discontent are not the same thing.

I hate to sound like a damn self-help book, but happiness comes from within. As Martha Washington said, "The greatest part of our happiness depends on our dispositions, not our circumstances."

Comments

Robin
Tue, 03/07/2006 - 5:27am

IMHO you are right on, Leo. There is a difference between happy and complacent (which I think the writer that you quoted missed). But there are lots of unhappy complacent people wandering around this town and that is one of our big problems. These are the people who cannot see any good in anything, who constantly gripe about EVERYTHING and who contribute NOTHING to society. If you can see that the glass is half full, maybe you'll be motivated to spend a little brain power or hard work to make it more full. If you just see it as half empty, all you'll do is whine about how someone (BIG GOVERNMENT? big business? conservatives? liberals? whoever) has screwed you by taking the water away.

A reader
Wed, 03/08/2006 - 2:47am

I think the guest writer was "on point". Her perspective is worth noting - and most often ignored by the residents of this city. So many of us are comfortable with our situation and have no idea of the everyday idignities that "people of color" deal wit . It's hard to be happy from within when you've got LIFE to deal with along with individuals judging you instantly by your appearance. I'm not saying it's impossible to be happy of course, but at least think about it for a minute.

Bob G.
Wed, 03/08/2006 - 7:25am

When it come to "happiness" or "unhappiness", the defining factor should be longevity. And personal introspection goes a long way in that regard. Our choices determine the "happy-factor" in every one of our lives.
There are millions of things that make us happy...and just as many things to make us equally unhappy.

I don't beleive that ANYONE is totally in that ever-blissful state of happiness (unless they're on Thorazin AND Codeine), and anyone that would place themselves in a constant state of unhappiness is denying themselves so much more in life.

But I would be remiss to not say that there are times (as in brief periods) of being HAPPY or UNHAPPY in everyone's life.
When you see your child's first step....HAPPY all the way. When that child graduates from school...HAPPY for about a MONTH!
Conversely speaking, when you smack your thumb with a hammer by accident...UNHAPPY! Or when you become unhappy because of some other THING or some other person, one should NOT enter into a state of torpor, but rather feel compelled to do SOMETHING to alleviate the situation. In other words...you're spurred into ACTION instead of INaction. For example, when people were unhappy about crossing America on FOOT...they built WAGONS. And when they became unhappy about THAT...they built the RAILROAD.
I would think that both being happy AND unhappy go hand-in-hand to complete us as human beings. Life sure mirrors that idea with more ups and downs than a roller coaster at Six Flags. And quite a few of us would like to forego another "ride" on many a day!

It's OK to be happy....it's also OK to be UNhappy, as long as you search yourself to see the cause and find the cure...and subsequently...get happy all over again.

Bob G.

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