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Opening Arguments

The dating game

I'm a little backward in dealing with people and especially retarded when it comes to women. I tend to hang back until there's an umistakable sign that a woman might be interested in me, then I will possibly take a tentative first step like saying hello to her.

But I rely on the old-fashioned way of interacting, which requires conversing with women in actual face-to-face encounters when meeting them in the course of living my life .  Two researchers, one of them from Indiana University, say there's a better way. First, you get a group of 1,000 -- yes, 1,000 -- potential mates. Then:

According to their research, in a group of 1,000 potential mates, only one to two percent needs to be sampled.

But you do need to set your "aspiration level" — your ideal mate based on a realistic view of who's available and who you can attract, without wasting your time by dating ad nauseam —and date those people you consider to be in the top 25 percent.

In other words, you have to go on roughly ten first dates, with mates who are close to your ideal. If after ten dates there's someone you want to go back to and he or she is available, then go for it. But give yourself those ten first dates.

Makes me tired just thinking about it. I suppose it's a better method than going home with the woman you just met tonight while drinking in the bar. Barely.